My prayer life


Sometimes I feel weird about prayer. I feel silly asking for certain things when I live in a big world with people suffering with much greater problems than myself.

God knows my needs. He knows my longings and the burdens I carry. He’s aware of what’s bothering me and what’s making me excited.

What I’ve come to learn is that prayer is less about the exchange of words and more about the relationship it builds. For example, I know Terry doesn’t mind when I ride along with him to the store. I know he doesn’t mind when I sit beside him on the couch. I know that he’s grateful that I make dinner for him each night. Still, I love when he ask me to ride along with him or when tells me to sit beside him.  I love when tells me that he is grateful for the dinner I made.

We could easily just fill our roles without a whole lot of communication. Treating each other kindly, but never exchanging words just for the sake of speaking. But what kind of relationship would that be? Certainly not one I would want to be apart of.

Communication is what keeps a relationship alive. Apart from trust, communication may be the most important aspect of any relationship. In the Bible, we read that Jesus prayed to God. It’s our form of communication with Him. Not only does communication bring us closer together, but communicating our wants and feelings helps us to more clearly see ourselves. What do I mean?

I’m talking about how when we pray we often tell God what we are wanting. In my life, there have me opportunities and relationships that I really wanted for myself. I have prayed over them continuously and often felt like I wasn’t getting an answer. However, as I continued pray for that specific want, I began to grow and learn how that desire wasn’t what I wanted at all. It was through the journey of prayer that I began to see and learn what my heart truly desired.

Also, by voicing what’s weighing heavily on my heart, I put things out in the open. I release the burdens by putting them into God’s hands. While that may not solve the problem, surrendering my worries to God gives me the freedom to live without them.

What does my current prayer life look like? Well, I remember when I was younger (from a child to teenager), I prayed at two distinct times: before meals and before bed. When I was a kid, I remember not being able to fall asleep until I prayed. Now, I still pray (usually formally) before meals and Terry and I pray together before bed. What’s different is that I use what 1 Thessalonians 5:17 tells us, which is to “pray continuously.” I’ve learned that prayer doesn’t have be a long, drawn out speech to God. I can briefly talk with Him as I walk to my job or I can have a conversation with Him while I’m at the gym.

It’s important that I live this way or else I will become disconnected. I will start to feel more stressed and definitely more self-absorbed. I will forget that I’m not living for just for me, which will lead me to feel like everything that happens is a way bigger deal than it is. I love this quote by C.S. Lewis and I think sums up quite nicely what I’m trying to get across:

“I pray because I can’t help myself. I pray because I’m helpless. I pray because the need flows out of me all the time, waking and sleeping. It doesn’t change God, it changes me.” -C.S. Lewis

While thinking about this post, I came across this article, “Prayer Has its Reasons“. I recommend it for understanding prayer in your own life.

Does prayer ever feel uncomfortable for you?

Have you found a way to enhance your prayer life? 

4 thoughts on “My prayer life

  1. The interesting thing about prayer to me is, I think I pray most authentically when I don’t actually consider it “prayer.” I grew up in church and have been saying grace before meals with my family all my life – and yet these times very rarely felt like genuine prayer to me. Or atleast, not coming “from” me. I think when you say you can pray as you walk to work or at the gym made me realize that sometimes it is just being with my own thoughts, feeling my hopes and worries inside of me, and thus having that little silent conversation asking for everything to be okay is my personal form of prayer.

    1. Exactly! It’s not always a formal thing.
      I find it interesting that even people who do not believe in God often pray to a Higher being. It’s like it is an innate behavior given to us.

  2. I think the more that I’ve learned that prayer is the supplications, the adoration of my heart to a good and loving father the more natural my prayer has become… I am so thankful that God is constantly growing and humbling me in this area. ❤ I LOVE praying while I do things, as it always keeps God's goodness and love and power before my mind. We just read the part in the NT where Jesus Christ was teaching His disciples how to pray. WOW! That passage has so many little nuggets that I did not remember. I love the passage. It was really convicting to me and how much I prize using so many words in my prayers, but I was reminded of the passage that says God desires the sacrifices of a broken and a contrite heart. If I'm overflowing with flowery prayer, is my heart really broken before God or just proud about how much I'm saying?

    Matthew 6-5 And when thou prayest, thou shalt not be as the hypocrites are: for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and in the corners of the streets, that they may be seen of men. Verily I say unto you, They have their reward. But thou, when thou prayest, enter into thy closet, and when thou hast shut thy door, pray to thy Father which is in secret; and thy Father which seeth in secret shall reward thee openly.But when ye pray, use not vain repetitions, as the heathen do: for they think that they shall be heard for their much speaking. Be not ye therefore like unto them: for your Father knoweth what things ye have need of, before ye ask him.

    After this manner therefore pray ye: Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name.Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven.Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever. Amen. For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.

    Thank you for getting me back to this subject to meditate on tonight. You are a BLESSING Kate!!!

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